Top Questions To Ask on A First Date

When you walk down the aisle, you want that day to be as memorable as the first date you went together. 

A first date is one of the most important days in building a relationship. You want to keep it as interesting and engaging that you have to plan the next date. 

This, however, does not mean that it is the first meeting or interaction you two have. You might have previously met a workmate or even a childhood friend. 

The aim and the whole idea of a first date, plan or set things going for a romantic/sexual relationship. 

During this time, certain questions should be asked to keep the conversation going and know your partner. 

In this piece of writing, I shall share my thoughts and examples of the type of questions to ask on a first date. 

Since there are lots of possible questions to ask, I shall split them into categories depending on what you want to get from the answer given. 

Background information questions 

Background questions are inquiries made to the person about who they generally are, and do not reflect anything on the relationship-building part. 

They are especially common for blind dating, or for those who’ve had just little interaction before the first date. Not necessary for acquaintances or friends who’ve known each other for a while.

Some of the questions to ask are;

  1. What is your full name – Don’t underestimate the importance of this question. I have seen people who’ve been together for months and some even have a baby together, and still one does not know the second name of their spouse. Such a shame!
  2. Where do you live, if yes, with who?
  3. Where did you go to school?
  4. What are you doing in this town; studying or working?
  5. If you have a family or in an existing relationship – The last thing you want to hear is months into a relationship that your partner has children or is married and to brush this off, you’re slapped with, “you never asked.” Such ignorance. 
  6. Do you have any siblings?

Questions to build a relationship 

This second line of questions targets those who want to build a relationship. Allow me to put much focus on the first date of two people meeting from online dating apps. 

Recently there has been a lot of confusion and frustration with online dating. People meet without having discussed what their intentions are with each other.

One partner intends to build a relationship while the other only wants sexual relationships without emotional attachment. 

Some people lie their way to having relationships only because then, they’ll be achieving their primary intention. 

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Some of the questions to ask are;

  1. What are you looking for in terms of relationship/ what reason brought you to this dating site?
  2. Short-term or long-term commitment? 
  3. What are your hobbies/what you like doing in your free time?
  4. What is the best present you have ever received or given out to someone? 
  5. What is the most memorable occasion you have ever attended 
  6. What event or occasion still makes you laugh when you think about it

Questions about the future

The last category of questions to ask on a first date involves the plans and goals of your partner. 

In the current society, we are inclined to know whether our future partners have goals and dreams that align with ours. 

Do not misquote me, you don’t necessarily have to have the same aspirations or goals.

There is that satisfaction that the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with has plans to better their future. This makes you want to know that person more and inspire each other along the way. 

Bottom line:

I might not be a certified relationship expert but one thing I know for sure is that when presenting or rather asking these questions on your date, you are not supposed to table them out as if you are taking a questionnaire.

We need to maintain some degree of civility and modesty. Let the questions flow from one question to another. 

Take some time to also share an opinion or two after a question is answered. Maybe share what your response should be if asked the same questions. 

This will keep the flow and up the conversation and the next thing you know is that you are planning a second date.